The helping professions can get a bit of a bad rap as “touchy feely” as if nothing substantial happens. It’s just a lot of talking about problems and feelings. No closing sales deals, smashing the budget or making record profits. No technology innovations or high profile product launches.
And yet there is such a pull to do exactly that. Get results. Meet targets. Make sure people complete court orders. There is a constant drive to see people get better, have better, go better.
We know the more we try to rush, the less progress we’re likely to make. We know the value of slowing down in order to go further. And yet… it can be so hard to slow down. Or to even catch that we’ve sped up in the first place.
Sometimes it helps to stop first. Interrupt the movement, come to a standstill and then start again at a slower pace. And we may need strategies to make this happen.
I remember a mindfulness teacher telling a story of a friend who set his watch to go off at 2:30 every day to take a moment to stop and be in the present moment. Over time he observed a remarkable coincidence. Right as the watch pinged, something amazing would happen. An eagle would fly overhead. A deer would cross his path. Until he realised these amazing moments were happening all the time, he just needed to find a way to notice.
So what helps you to stop so that you can slow down and be more more fully connected to what is happening? Perhaps it’s an alarm on a phone or watch. A reminder on your office wall. Or practicing the habit of introducing a pause into a conversation – “Let’s just both stop a moment and reflect on what isn’t being said’ – so you can start again with renewed attention and intention.