Ask helping professionals what the worst part of the work is, they don’t usually name client challenges, they name the system. The frustrations of funding models, relentless targets, unsupportive management. The tension between needing to conduct intensive or even intrusive assessments at the same time they are trying to engage the person into a vulnerable process. The imposition of theoretical models on the messiness of reality, and that there are never, never enough resources.
We can – and should – advocate for better systems and better processes that support real world change rather than reinforce unrealistic expectations or create unsustainable pressure.
But we can also consider our relationship with the system. And like any relationship, we have choices in our half. If we just focus on the negative, we may become passively resentful, feeling trapped and frustrated, or actively resistant, obstructing and undermining. Either way, we risk spinning our wheels burning a lot of energy that could be spent in more productive ways.
We can find room for acceptance that the system isn’t perfect, because nothing is. Everyone, including our loved ones and especially ourselves, are flawed, with strengths and weaknesses, and default reactions under duress. So do systems.
So while we work to make systems better, how can we find space for pragmatic acceptance of the system as it is right now? How can we value its strengths and work to minimise the impact of its weaknesses on clients, colleagues and ourselves?