This work is complex, multi-layered, nuanced, with multiple presenting concerns being the norm not the exception. Wouldn’t it be nice if there was a secret to unlocking the potential of therapeutic conversations?
We’ve all seen our fair share of confident experts promising that they have the answer. That the truth is simple once you know it. It sounds reassuring. Seductive even.
But what if I told you it’s true? There really is a basic hack to have better engaged, more productive conversations.
Get a good night’s sleep.
Like a really good, bone-deep, at-peace-with-the-world, refreshing, restorative sleep. And do it again. And again. And again.
Ah.
Damn.
There are so many reasons we might not get the quality of sleep that we need, and it’s not a simple thing to address. Listen to sleep experts on how the modern world, our diets, our habits, our hormones, our lives mess with our sleep and it’s amazing we get as much as we do.
Yet it’s also worth being curious about the things we do to try to become a better helper that might get in the way of being a truly rested one. Where might we be striving, straining, stressing? Cutting corners on self-care in the name of supporting others? Short-changing the present moment because we’re chasing the future or dwelling on the past? Undervaluing what we, the person, might have to offer, separate to what we know?
So yeah. I’m not saying it’s easy. And if you’re anything like me, it’s a work in progress. But it just might be one of the most fundamental areas of professional development that we could invest in.