How are you feeling as we come to the end of another year? Perhaps these past couple of weeks feel like a mad scramble, squeezing the last to do items out of the productivity toothpaste tube. Perhaps it feels more like a slowly deflating balloon, or a weary limp towards a faint finishing line. Maybe you feel refreshed, joyful, sparkling with delight. If that’s you, please tell me your secret.
However it feels, likely this is a time of transition, reflecting on the past year and orienting toward the next. Perhaps you’re checking in with your intentions from the beginning of the year and forming new ones. Or recycling familiar old ones. Again.
Whether we set hard core New Years resolutions or more general intentions or even vaguer hopes, our aim is to achieve something positive. Better health, better relationships, better future, better quality of life. And why not?
But whatever we want to achieve, it starts with our relationship with where we’re at now. That sets the tone for how we proceed. Are we striving or aspiring?
Striving is all about getting ‘there’. There’s a sense of effort, straining, driving to get from A to B, where B is superior and our current A just isn’t good enough. Maybe we’re not good enough. And there’s the risk of failing, not arriving, stalling on the road.
Aspiring is more about expanding what’s ‘here’. There’s an opening, broadening, deepening of possibilities. There’s more room for acceptance and softness for wherever we are and more curiosity about what might emerge.
Striving is more about the destination. Aspiring is more about the path we choose to take.